While Ray and I had dinner last night (at one of our favorite Asian fast food places in our area), I started sounding totally miserable and complaining about how I feel like I should have started saving my money since my first job when I was 15 and that now it’s totally kicking my ass; how being an adult sucks; how I feel like I’ve totally failed myself in the finance department because I was so focused on spending my money a few years ago; and, most importantly, how I feel like I’m not getting to where I want to be.
He and I spoke about our “5-year plan” and it seems like we’re either on the same page or meeting each other halfway, which is both equally great. Within my 5-year plan, we’d have our own house (we both want a townhouse as our first home), he’d have a stable job, I’d have moved up in my job and probably planning a wedding somewhere in there. He and I agreed that all of that sounds very doable by 2019. He’s so positive and the optimist in our relationship and I love him so much for that. I totally counter that because I’m such a pessimist and always asking myself ‘what if this happens and then we can’t do that’ – it’s really a struggle to look at the brighter sides of situations, but really I’ve been trying my hardest. If it’s the one thing I continually struggle yet work hard for, every day, is to think positively about every single situation I find myself in.
Ray asked me ‘Why can’t you be happy with what you’ve already got?’ and said I should be happy to be where I am right now. One of the things that make us different is that his mind focuses on the present while mine is sailing away planning the future. Both aren’t bad things but can really play a role in our relationship. As the years went by our relationship, I’ve learned to (and I’m still learning) take each day as it comes and stop being so worrisome about tomorrow and the day after that. Ray has learned to start looking ahead and planning out where he wants to be a year from now, 2 years from now, and so on. We’ve both learned from each other so many things and we continue to learn from each other. I love that about us and I think it just makes our bond stronger.
When he asked me that last night, it was another slap in the face kind of feeling. Here I am worried about not having that down payment for a house within the next year or so; or worrying about not being able to go on our first vacation next year, when someone, somewhere, can’t even afford to have their next meal or next drink of water.
So this is just a friendly reminder to everyone but, foremost, myself to continue to be thankful for everything you have in your life, and to give thanks and give back in any way you can. This is definitely a note to self that’ll last forever.
Scarf came out to play again :)
I may be starting a shoe collection in my office thanks to Winter…
Peacoat: H&M, sz 2 | Blanket scarf: Express | Sweater: Mossimo, medium (Target - love their clothes!!) | Necklace: Aldo, I think | Skinny pants: H&M, sz 6 | Ankle boots: Kate & Mel, sz 7 (Town Shoes)
Happy happy Friday!
Today means an easy day, sushi lunch with the colleagues, gym time after work, and, hopefully, some alone and relaxation time at home with the love of my life. The weather kinda sucked during the drive this AM but the skies seem to be clearing up a little. There were warnings of freezing rain but I’m hoping to God no. Ain’t nobody got time for that!
So what’s the deal with this whole” stop, drop, selfie” thing going viral on Instagram? A friend told me it’s to raise awareness for MS.. but geez I don’t know if I believe in that. I’ve been nominated by three people in the last week already, so maybe I’ll find some time to stop what I’m doing and drop a selfie, lol. X_X
I’m loving that my top layers are shorter now which gives me so much volume at my crown. hehe, good hair day today!
Always a Timmy’s in the morning. Always.
Click the image above to take you to the products page on Ipsy!
Again, absolutely excited to try these products, especially the Glam Glow! Those darn things retail for about $80 for a small container!
This month’s bag includes:
be Delectable from Cake Beauty ultra nourishing hand cream in Coconut & Cream | Be A Bombshell Cosmetics Eye Base in Submissive | GLAMGLOW PowerMud™ Dual Cleanse Treatment | J. Cat Beauty Wonder Lip Paint in Red Potion | Starlooks Gem Eye Pencil in Ultra Orchid
I tried the eye pencil on my hand and it’s a metallic purple shade that has the consistency of a cream liner so it’s super smooth and smudges very nicely – I’m really excited to use this liner, which is a lot to say since I’m really stepping out of my comfort zone with purple eyeliner!
Loveeeeeeee my Ipsy monthly products! One of my favorite investments thus far.
So, last night, Jamie and I were going crazy showing each other what our dream engagement rings would be and discussing things like what we’d expect our boyfriends to pay for, what color and cut we want, blah blah blah. Girls talk about these things all the time! lol.
And, here it is. My dream engagement ring:
Courtesy of Blue Nile Jewelry, click the photos to go to the product’s page.
Yes. I want a sapphire as the main stone, in this exact blue, with diamonds surrounding it. This ring is, literally, the exact one that I want. I remember a ring similar like this caught my eye at a store in the mall and I knew the color was what I wanted for a ring. I showed it to Ray and he basically said ‘okay, got it, blue engagement ring’. Lol.
Blue is my favorite color. Quite honestly, it’s kind of hard to tell it’s my fave color because I don’t own much blue in my life. Other than jeans, I don’t have many other articles of clothing that are blue nor accessories. For that reason, if it’s the one blue thing I’ll have for the rest of my life, then it has to be my engagement ring.
No, I didn’t realize Kate Middleton and Princess Diana had blue wedding rings as well. I didn’t realize it until Jamie pointed it out that blue was the color of both women’s rings. Yay, we’ll match!
Ugh, it’s so beautiful, I cannot even stop staring at the image on the screen. Imagine what it’ll be like once it’s on my finger…..
Comfy Thursday definitely needed for today.
Went out with a friend last night, to Original Joe’s, and, what was supposed to be just a casual dinner and drinks and relaxation, turned into more drinks than we thought we’d have on a Wednesday night, lol. Such good talks, so many laughs and having a grand time complaining about, yet praising our boyfriends – typical girls’ night! Can’t wait until Saturday to have dinner, drinks and possibly lounge it with Jamie and Christina, yay!
Thank goodness I had already planned today’s OOTD two nights before so I didn’t have to wake up early and scramble between outfits to figure out what I’d wear. Cozy sweater to keep me warm today! Loving this mild winter weather we’re having but, mind you, it’s not officially winter yet.
Sweater: RW & Co., x-small
Vest: Old Navy, x-small
Pants: H&M, sz 6
Boots: Kate and Mel, sz 7 (Available at Town Shoes)
Necklace: Old Navy
Easy day today which is great. I can catch up on some emails, blog a bit more today and have some “relaxing” desk time. Hoping to buy our Usher tickets today as well. I cannot wait to see him live with August Alsina!!
I am in love.
Click for more details! I need these sneakers in my life. Now.